After two years of unpredictable times of when, how and where we can catch up with family and friends, most of us are super keen and hanging out to Christmas festivities.
There’s a tinge of anxiety too. Large gatherings of extended family over the festive season can quickly turn into a tinder box of family politics, conflicting perspectives, and unrealistic expectations. When you combine them with the already potent cocktail of “COVID-normal” anxieties and uncertainty, you can only wonder how well we will ‘survive’ the festive season.
Rhonda Andrews, Principal Psychologist and Managing Director of Barrington Centre, advises that we should start by acknowledging what’s happened for all of us over 2020 and 2021, “What we need to understand is that we’ve gone through a lot over the past two Christmas/New Year periods. There’s been a seismic realignment in priorities, values, and lifestyles; all whilst dealing with the psychological impact of being separated from loved ones for long periods of time. It is natural to be cautious and anxious about what the future may bring, given that health advice and borders seem to change quickly. We need to remind ourselves to keep this in perspective and change our expectations of what the festive season would look like for us.”
As practical strategies to get you through the season, Rhonda recommends managing any potential tension by splitting celebrations over several days, or by organising activities/events that keep people absorbed and distracted (through swimming, physical outdoor fun, for example).
Rhonda also suggests connecting with at least one supportive friend or relative; evidence shows that having meaningful social relationships contributes to a significant increase in mental wellbeing and happiness during this time.
It is also acceptable to say ‘no’ to invitations if you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed by the number of events you are ‘expected’ to attend; the more stressors you remove, the higher the likelihood that you will enjoy the holiday season and take the opportunity to relax and recharge before the start of a New Year. Taking a break from the news cycle and social media is also recommended, Rhonda added, “if they’re making you feel flat.”
Lastly, Rhonda suggests setting aside time to do activities that you enjoy, “These could be as festive as going into CBD or your local area to view the Christmas light displays one evening, or an early morning walk through the local park before the kids are up one morning”.
If at anytime you feel that you would just like to talk about your reactions or what’s happening for you, Barrington Centre is open during the December/January season. You can reach us on 1300 787 399.